The Power to Love

I have a question for you…

What if you could heal that secret feeling of loneliness that’s slowly swallowing you whole?

I’m talking about the feeling of being alone in the world. 

Too often you feel like you can’t trust, depend, or rely upon anyone... but YO’SELF.  

It’s lonely to think if you want something done right, you’re the only one capable enough to do it.  

People in your life have probably told you more than once that… 

You must be in control of every damn thing ALL the damn time.

Where’s the lie?

Could it be that you don’t know how to receive the love and support you so desperately deserve? 

I know you LOOK like you have it all together…but over here we value sincerity over sensationalism.

Let me break it down for you.

What if you could satisfy that emptiness you’ve been hiding?

You struggle to put that hollow feeling into words…

Despite all of your accolades, accomplishments, and amazing personality… something is missing.

You probably think having ACTUAL emotions are weakness, and you feel guilty for feeling unhappy. 

I SEE YOU and I see through you.

You were raised and praised for being a self-denying highly-skilled superwoman.

You’re SO good at it, because you’re perfectionistic too.

Don’t roll your eyes. I’m about to drag you.

Here’s the problem…

Perfectionism leads to only one thing…loneliness. 

You crave closeness, but you can’t have perfection and company. To be in the company of humans requires that you negotiate imperfection and flaws…

THIS is where you struggle. 

You use perfection to keep youself from actually having to be vulnerable AND happy. 

You don’t let anyone in. 

Not really. 

They know you…but they don’t KNOW You KNOW you. You wear the good-girl mask and shield your heart, then wonder why you feel alone even when you’re in (fake) love. 

You don’t think you’re enough because being depended on isn’t the same thing as being loved. 

Here’s the superwoman rulebook:

Let’s not forget the unspoken rule of silence: Do NOT talk about what goes on in your house or your heart.

You are brilliant and intellectually cape-able.

You know that every awesome relationship requires communication, honesty, emotional maturity, boundaries, and VULNERABILITY; yet you still find yourself asking questions like…

• I know I am a good person, so why do I feel unworthy?
• Why can’t I find someone on my level who will give me love I need?
• How do I open my heart after being hurt and disappointed so many times?
• If I do relationships so right, why do they go so wrong?
• Is there something wrong with me or am I just crazy?

If you ask these questions, it’s probably because you don’t know who you REALLY are when you ain’t playin’ superwoman. 

You don’t know that you are trying to love with a broken heart.

This is why you attract partners that can’t, don’t, won’t or aren’t equipped to meet your needs. Or sis, you simply aren’t attracted to the good guys because they are BORE.RING. The one’s you like show up narcissistic, needy, broken, married, emotionally unavailable and damaged, or irresponsible. They are projects and products. Both require work NOT love.

❤️ Love requires vulnerability! 
❤️ Vulnerability is kryptonite to superwoman. 
❤️ Superwoman knows struggle, and she knows pain. THAT she can handle. 
❤️ She knows what everybody else should do....
❤️ Yet, she doesn’t know how to fix her own life.
❤️ She struggles with communicating feelings, expressing feelings, managing feelings, accepting feelings… 
❤️ See where I am going?
❤️ Superwoman hides her broken heart under the shield of “masculinity” because…
❤️ She doesn’t know what it means to be safe. 
❤️ She needs safety. 
❤️ She wants love. 
❤️ She is YOU. 

The thing is, you can learn to be strong AND loved. 

Love is about the acceptance of being human. Humans feel. Humans are messy. Humans make mistakes. We have limits, fear, needs, thoughts, desires, shame and most importantly need love. 

You both need love and fear its loss…that is at the heart of what it means to be human. 

Human love in a way that is familiar to them. How you know love is rooted in your past. You’re a product of your environment. We all are. Everything you know you learned, especially when it comes to love. Family sets your love blueprint. Most superwomen learned that love is pain, that’s why pain is what you know. You’re attracted to the familiar, even if it’s not good for you. This is why healing is important. Your blueprint is coded for struggle love. If you keep attracting different people with the same toxic outcome, you need self-love special ed.

Here’s what members of Love U have had to say…

Veda W.

Cerita, you are such a precious soul.  The intention in this message is simply about me, loving on you.  I just stopped by to love on you the way I have felt you love on me and watched you love on and pour into others.  Your smile and your voice are so warm and welcoming, without words your spirit is whispering “welcome home broken heart, healing is waiting for you.”  I felt your spirit the first day we spoke on the phone and I have been empowered by your wisdom ever since.  Your passion for us to win is evident and heartwarming. I watch as you move out of your own way and allow such a soothing spirit of wisdom, compassion, validation and love to pour into the women in our community, while blatantly, unapologetically at times, yet lovingly keeping it real, Sistah to Sistah.  We are just getting started and already I have seen change and growth within myself. Your teachings provide the answer to the questions my soul has been asking.  I am excited about what is to come.  Thank you for doing what you do and for answering the call to use your life and your life experience to empower others.  You truly are a beautiful soul. 

Thank you for learning to straighten your crown Queen, and for teaching us to do the same.  I encourage any woman who needs a soft loving place to understand and embrace her worth, I recommend giving Cerita a call...she had me at "hello."

Deltrice H. 

I have been a student of Love University for about 3 months now and I have seen so much personal growth. I’ve also witness growth in the other members of our tribe. I am so grateful that God saw fit to lead me to Cerita! Queen Cerita is open, honest, transparent and real which allows everyone in our class to do the same. God has anointed Cerita for such a time as this! I thought I was struggling with getting over myself when in reality I was struggling with past trauma that I had suppressed for years. When we had our one on one and she walked me through one of the mental exercises and I realized that my inner child was 2 years old...baaabbyyy!!! That alone put many things into perspective. My biological father turned his back on me at the age of 2 and for me it was extremely devastating because I was and still wanted to be a daddy's girl. I blamed him for all the trauma that came after that because I felt if he was there none of the other awful things would have happened. But God! I can say that today, I have released my biological father from being the cornerstone of my pain and I am committed to loving myself throughout this healing journey.

If you are ready and willing to put in the work, you can start your healing process too! Join our tribe at Love University! We all have trauma; especially as black women and we often share similar traumatic experiences. This is a judgement free zone. It’s all about women helping women to become the best version of ourselves. We can't wait to love on you!

Tanya N. 

As a Registered Psychiatric Nurse for 13 years, as well as an Adult Childhood Trauma Survivor, I truly cannot express the Enormous Vessel of Empowerment, Hope and Relief that has been and is so forthcoming in this Self-Love class at Love University.  Although the current class is designed to educate and focus on Black Women, in particular, which deal with the obstacles and burdens that are unique to us. The resulting healing frees us to connect with others and use our inherent, but currently dormant and hidden gifts to be shared to help heal all of Humanity who knowingly and unknowingly are impacted by the destructive effects of Trauma that lives invisibly in our minds and our bodies.  This class is where the real work of healing trauma is done, through love, support, and cutting-edge information to bring about awareness and self-awareness, and most importantly connection, which humans seem to be losing in this New Era of Technology.

In this class we are free to cry REAL Tears, and not be judged, we also get to laugh from the depths of our bellies. Although it’s virtual, this space that Cerita has created for us, feels like the HOME that we’ve been longing for, all of our lives.

Michelle

I didn't know what to expect getting on a zoom call for healing. I had never heard of Cerita but my spirit was drawn to her Facebook page introduction and it said FREE trial, I'm all about free. But after listening to the recorded webinars before the 1st class I joined and became a member. After the very first-class January 5, 2021 my life was changed. Something on the inside of me moved and each class I take away something and apply it. And I am growing and crawling into my purpose everyday by applying what I'm learning.  It's a safe place with women who have become family, we support and encourage one another. 

Cerita is not your typical therapist, she is transparent, open, honest, funny, caring and dedicated to seeing you grow as much as you desire to grow. She is gifted, anointed and has been called and appointed for such a time as this and I'm blessed to be a part of Love University.  Thank you Cerita for all you do, you are truly making a difference and changing lives. 

Tabitha A. 

Let me tell you that this class is worth every penny! Cerita has helped me understand things that I just couldn’t come to even get past. But as I am growing and living and loving on me more! I am so thankful for her and the lessons. You definitely have to do the work and when you do, healing that takes place! I love everyone in the group we are a group of women healing one day at a time.

Robyn H. 

Love University is the truth!

Cerita Yvonne is the realist woman I have ever encountered in my life! 

If you are hurt from previous relationships, surviving trauma from the past, or need to heal to move forward, Cerita Yvonne and the Love University is where you should be! I was stuck in a place that I could not get out of alone. Emotionally drained, financially stable, just bought a house and I was feeling like I was waiting for the shoe to drop or fearful that I was failing. Cerita Yvonne gave me the tools and the encouragement to know I was alright and the safe space to keep it real and be told what I needed to hear. I've only grown healthier from it these last few months!

From Trigger Tuesdays to Journaling 15 minutes a day, we have been drowning in this abyss of pain for too long! It's time to move forward in this healing journey.  Ladies, we need this type of loving, caring and real connection to the path to get you where you need to be.

Bring your issues and learn boundaries, then forgive yourself with grace and love. You don't know what you need or what you can get until you register with the Love University. With Cerita Yvonne guiding our healing, you will be sure to forgive yourself and grow in love!

Love University, the healing place!

Ericka L. 

Cerita makes women feel uncomfortably comfortable. She challenges us to take off the facades and pushes us to see that the love that we so desperately want and say we need, is already inside of us. I came to the class to work on being whole, Cerita reminded me that I am already whole, it’s now time to walk in it. From my first 30-minute phone call with her, I knew it was time to take the next steps into healing from something I had concealed from so many people. I was trying to heal on my own. Church is great and God is the greatest, but I was in desperate need for some self-love special education! And that’s exactly what I’m getting! #HealedGirlSummer

• LOVE YOURSELF and all your parts unconditionally without question or permission
• End the cycle of heartbreak, disconnection, and depression 
• Embrace your innocence and practice radical self-forgiveness
• Learn how to identify, express, accept, and honor your emotions 
• Learn how accept all the parts of you regardless of your past choices and experiences
• Transform how you create, communicate, and love within relationships
• Learn how to identify and bond with emotionally mature people
• Experience more inner peace, joy, calm, and happiness
• Free yourself from soul-sucking toxic relationships
• Give yourself permission to be authentically you

• Value your genuine thoughts and feelings
• Practice setting clear non-negotiable boundaries
• Free yourself from the shame and guilt that’ve silenced your confidence 
• Accept the freedom to be human and imperfect
• Bring back enthusiasm, spontaneity, and creativity in your life
• Practice uninhibited affection and connection
• Express what you think and feel without feeling guilty
• Learn how to trust yourself
• Allow yourself to be supported 
• Give yourself the kindness and respect you give to others
• Increase your confidence, self-worth, and self-awareness 
• Retire your cape and enjoy the peace you deserve

There is no other program out here like Love University that caters to the specific needs of Black women suffering with trauma and heartbreak. Love U unpacks the experience of sistas by breaking down the impact of culture, dysfunctional families and communities, racism, misogyny, depression, anxiety, and developmental trauma along with the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, and social work.

The classes are taught by a therapist who is trained as a relational trauma expert, hypnotherapist, and coach. We bring honesty, humor, love, old-school hip-hip and R&B from the 90’s and early 2000’s because we appreciate the vibe. Love U is a non-judgmental sacred space where women are encouraged to do the DEEP heart-work of self-love and self-accountability. We are a blend of Iyanla, Brene, and Oprah mixed with DMX, 2Pac, and NWA sprinkled with some cool ass Snoop and Mary J. on top. The bottom line is Love U keeps it REAL and in LOVE.

Buy it, try it, apply it.

Get a 7-day FREE trial and cancel anytime no questions asked. 

For those of you who are on the fence, or have been burned in the past or just don’t know how amazing I am YET, I want to give you the opportunity to Join Love U on a trial basis. You can audit a class before you commit. We know how fantastic we are and we trust you will too. You can cancel your membership anytime through your account or via email. Please be advised that because every class is life-changing we do not offer a money-back guarantee because we KNOW our worth. 

Girrrl! I am so excited to meet you! 

I’m Cerita and I ride for my sistas. I'm a therapist, coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional that’s also the perfect mix of hood and holy. I created Love University because I’ve lived the pain and power of many Black women.  You slay all day and suffer in silence at night. I was successful at being ambitious, but not in love. My past poisoned my heart and I didn’t know it. I was a co-dependent perfectionist sexual abuse survivor wearing a cape that I inherited from strong women who were secretly heartbroken.

I wanted to live my purpose not my pain so I tried it all. Affirmations, books, classes, vision boards, prayer, and even a Native American Sweat Lodge helped; but still I felt broken inside and my relationships continued to suffer. I needed some real self-love special ed so I become a therapist. Therapy saved my life because I learned about the spiritual and emotional devastation of trauma- and I also learned how to heal. I healed the ROOT of my trauma knowing that so many Black women are struggling with the same dis-ease of disappointment, loneliness, and perfectly hidden depression while pretending to be strong. I learned how to break my own toxic patterns and I can’t wait to teach you how to love and heal in Love University.   

Can’t wait to see you in class!

Always in love, 

This program is a perfect fit for you if…

 You’re a Black woman who wants to be happy

 You are ready to give up the fight of being your own worst enemy

 You have a history of toxic, unhealthy, or soul-sucking relationships

 You’ve experienced trauma, abuse, or emotional neglect

 You’re a martyr, superwoman, or fixer and you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired

 You want to create, attract, or maintain healthy and loving relationships

 You understand that healing requires a commitment to yourself

 You’ve been looking for a tribe who will love you through your journey

Love University is NOT for you if…

 You’re anyone who is not a Black woman

 You hate cussin’, cursing, or people being authentically human

 You’re looking for Duct Tape or Gorilla Glue to solve your problems

 You think a soulmate or that special someone is the solution to your dysfunction

 You’re judgmental, shaming, dismissive and you already know everything