Are You Ready To Stop Going Through The Motions?
You think you can "fix" yourself. Instead of healing your heart after disappointment and secret depression, you apply the trend of fake it 'till you make it, put on a glitter mask complete with hair and lashes, and a customized superwoman cape all while telling yourself that you ‘gone be aiight’ because you’re strong. Right?
You Don’t Have To Struggle Alone In Silence Feeling Stuck and Broken Dealing With the Aftermath of Toxic Relationships.
You’ve been battling yourself and it’s time to declare peace and own your power so you can…
Breakthrough the devastating patterns of attracting narcissists, manipulators, and struggle-love bandits who break your heart
Stop feeling alone, ashamed, exhausted, and depleted
Quit pretending and hiding feelings of overwhelm, stuckness, and brokenness actin' like you ain't sick and tired
Put an end to the lie of being unworthy, unloveable, and feeling like you're not enough
Stop ignoring glaring red flags, blatant boundary violations, and excusing disrespect
Breakup with settling for half-assed relationships and seat-fillers because you KNOW you deserve better
Finally, eliminate the sabotaging beliefs that have you feelin’ helpless and powerless thinking you need to earn love, validation, and respect
Join The Relationship Detox
I’m Not Saying It’ll Be Easy, Because It’s Not.
You feel low-key desperate and lost because you’ve been raised and praised to self-sacrifice and trained to people-please. You give everything and receive very little in return. You constantly feel alone, unheard, and dismissed. You’ve felt ashamed because the relationships you desperately desire continue to fail, but it’s not your fault.
You Don’t Realize That Toxic Relationships Are Trauma and It Looks Like:
Toxic or narcissistic partners who manipulate, gaslight, and disrespect you and blame you for the abuse
Abandonment or betrayal by someone you love, trust, or depend on leaving you feeling powerless, unheard, and invisible
Having your thoughts, needs, and feelings rejected, shamed, or constantly ignored
Emotional, physical, or sexual abuse that was never treated, acknowledged or validated
Growing up with dysfunctional, addicted, violent, or over-protective parents who are M.I.A on the regular
Parents who gave you everything you needed, but emotionally they were shut down, invalidating, or shaming
Never feeling safe, protected, respected, or nurtured
Any relational violation that disrupts your sense of trust and safety in the world
You Love Hard.
You’re doing all of the things – being a "good" girl high-key people-pleasing, settling, begging, sacrificing, praying, saying 5,389 affirmations a day, pretending to read all the books (but you actually skim and rarely take the time to do the exercises). You listen to every podcast (even the fake relationship coaches who are full of trauma and attachment wounds) on YouTube – and you’re still struggling in love.
The truth is: All of the loyalty or toxic positivity in the world won’t fix your relationships. Quick fixes only guarantee temporary results- including waiting on God because you're too impatient and struggle with being alone- so you resort to self-medication. Everything you've tried amounts to Band-Aids.
You need that permanent Gorilla Glue kinda healing…
It’s Time You Heal and Stop Making Excuses So You Can:
Finally, be happy for no reason other than you love who you're becoming
Receive and embrace being loved, supported, powerful, and visible
Experience feeling whole and peaceful because you love yourself unapologetically
Stop feeling ashamed, insecure, disappointed, and low-key jealous because you've reclaimed your voice and your worth
Confidently pursue your purpose while creating more love, connection, and intimacy in your life because your spirit is a whole vibe
Learn how to heal your fear, anxiety, hopelessness, shame, and loneliness, and enjoy being yourSELF
Get to know the God in you and awaken a deeper spiritual connection that feeds your soul and nurtures your heart
Stop believing vulnerability is a weakness so you can open your heart to love and give yourself the love you deserve
Respect yourself, your feelings, your needs, and become the essence of relationship goals
Create a legacy of love and healing making your ancestors proud because you are their wildest dreams
Sign Me Up For Self-Love
You can make these changes too, just like Ursula :
Here’s What Ursula Said About Her Transformation:
"Before working with Cerita I had several dead-end relationships. It always ended the same way... UNFULFILLING. I never took the time to figure out why. Instead, I would start another relationship to "heal" from the last, but it really was a toxic cycle. Cerita taught me to identify why I was attracted to the same type of man, and it was my trauma. Deep inside my soul... I didn't even like them! I did the work and got to the root of why I stayed in these toxic relationships. The whole time I thought it was my partner(s), but it was really ME. I started to learn/love my true authentic self, I set boundaries, I found my voice, changed careers after 25 years, and now I’m living my purpose helping others to heal as a mental wellness advocate. Toxic relationships are no longer appealing and I have a completely different outlook on life."
Ursula B. - Founder of Black Girls Getting Their Shift Together
The Relationship Detox
The Detox is a monthly membership for extraordinary women who are ready to heal after toxic relationships and escape the trauma that’s spiraling their love life out of control. You’ll learn how to do a deep cleanse and heal generational trauma, burn your cape, stop allowing disrespect, and love yourself wholly and completely so you can create the happy relationships and unconditional self-worth you deserve.
Know Your Worth
Identify your emotional triggers, reclaim your worthiness, and your soul
Know How to Be Loved
Explore your attachment style and unpack your B.S. Belief Systems
Know Who You Are
Become whole, find your voice, and love yourself unapologetically
What's The Difference?
The Relationship Detox includes 2 life-changing group therapy sessions a month on topics related to trauma and healing from toxic relationships. This group coaching can be compared to the shallow end of a pool. You’ll begin learning how to "swim" or heal without overwhelming your body and your mind. You’ll gain the knowledge to break the cycles of heartbreak, decrease your triggers, and increase your emotional maturity. You'll learn the basic skills you need to have healthy relationships.
Relationship "RecoverME" Recovery
Relationship Recovery includes The Relationship Detox Program and over 100 hours of group therapy lectures. This community meets weekly and kinda like the deep end of a pool. This group is for you if you're ready to "dive in" because you're further along in your healing journey or you've tried almost everything but still struggle with authentic self-love, self-worth, boundaries, or maintaining healthy relationships. This process will help you heal deeper, faster, and with more support and community accountability.
Here's What You'll Learn:
Practice H.O.P.E. The 12-Step Blueprint to Audacious Liberation and Unapologetic Self-love
Step 1: Cultivate Unlimited Self-Worth + Uncompromising Self-Respect + Unbreakable Confidence
Step 2: Identify Sabatoging Emotional Triggers + Trauma Responses
Step 3: Unpack Negative B.S. Belief Systems + Learn Self-Forgiveness to Release Guilt + Shame
Step 4: Make Healing a Lifestyle by Practicing Unconditional Self-Acceptance + Fearless Authenticity
Step 5: Set Boundaries + Love Without Losing Yourself
Step 6: Explore Your Attachment Style + Love Blueprint to Learn Emotional Maturity
Step 7: Stop Settling + Raise Your Standards + Create Safe Secure Healthy Relationships
Step 8: Practice Unwavering Self-trust + Emotional Intimacy + Transformative Vulnerability
Step 9: Restore Feeling Loved + Whole + Complete
Step 10: Detox Your Relationship With Yourself + Prioritize Your Needs
Step 11: Reparent Yourself + Heal Your Inner Child to Find Your Voice
Step 12: Recover Your True Self LOVE to Reclaim Your Joy + Freedom+ Inner Peace
Get to Know me! I’m so excited to meet you.
My name is Cerita Yvonne. I’m a relational trauma therapist, teacher, coach, Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and hypnotherapist. I’m also a recovered codependent love addict, perfectionist, sexual abuse survivor, and retired superwoman transformed into a powerful human being. For too long I wore a cape that I inherited from strong women who were secretly heartbroken.
I created The Relationship Detox because I know that so many Black women are struggling with the same dis-ease of disappointment, loneliness, and perfectly hidden depression while pretending to be strong. It doesn’t have to be this way, I can’t wait to teach you how to heal, enjoy life, and embrace being LOVED again.
I look forward to seeing you in class!
Always in love,
Save me a seat sis!
ATTENTION NON-BLACK WOMEN!!
WE TALK ABOUT RACE.
This group is a safe space for BLACK WOMEN and ALL WOMEN HEALING TRAUMA.
Here’s where shit’s gonna get real. We discuss relationships and race because it’s all related to our trauma and identity. We will NOT explain, diminish, pretend or silence ourselves to make anyone else comfortable. We are not here to teach how we’ve been impacted by racism. If you prefer denial or compliant Black folk, this is NOT the group for you.
Together we can change our world and dismantle The Patriarchy.
PLEASE READ BEFORE JOINING!
This group is NOT for you if:
You're anti-Black or anti-woke
You don’t understand why Black women and WOC need a safe space to heal
You’ve done ZERO work to understand structural, systemic, and cultural racism
You say you don’t see color because it means you don't see the WHOLE person
You prefer to say All Lives Matter without understanding the significance
You think Black people should just “get over slavery already”
You don’t understand how racism hurts EVERYONE
You have bi-racial children and you want someone to teach you about racism
You’re a Karen and you don’t know when to mind your business
You don’t believe you have white privilege and think that all of your success is based on merit alone
You don’t listen to the lived experience of Black folks
You're just curious and have no real interest in healing, loving, and connecting
You're uncomfortable talking about the hard truths of trauma, racism, privilege, and white fragility
You’re not interested in creating a legacy of love
You don’t wish to be extraordinary and work to dismantle the LIE of white supremacy and make this world a better place for ALL of our children
Our Community Is Perfect For You If…
You are ready to become extraordinary and do the deep work to heal
You want to be apart of a community of dope ass women who are serious about love
You have a history of toxic, unhealthy, or soul-sucking relationships
You’ve experienced trauma, abuse, or emotional neglect
You’re a martyr, superwoman, or fixer and you’re ready to retire and enjoy life
You want to create, attract, or maintain healthy and loving relationships
You’ve been looking for a tribe who will love you through your journey
You are ready to know your worth and become whole
You want to leave a legacy of love